Independent Constitutionalists UK

ICUK Guidelines for Collaboration

Over time, Constitutionalists have learned that conciliatory dialogue is, among other things, aided by:

o Remembering that nothing is impossible if we don't mind who gets the credit

o Understanding that servant-leadership is about enabling, not controlling,others

o Sustaining high tolerance for ambiguity, respecting contributions made at meetings and not interrupting those speaking

o Welcoming newcomers at their point of entry

o Holding strong convictions tentatively and keeping all boundaries permeable

o Seeking to listen and learn rather than being right

o Ensuring all comments are related to the task

o Remembering that reality lies in the second glance, after dealing with prejudice in the first

o Acknowledging that thinking is difficult and that people move at different speeds

o Remembering that fragility is a mark of value: that which is not fragile may be pretentious

o Throwing out dogma, while preserving any wisdom or poetry that inspired it

o Checking one's own tribalism and egotism by remembering that we share our fragile planet with others

o Being aware that dialogue's ultimate goal is resolution and reconciliation

o Knowing that Democracy is the art of thinking independently together